I hate dating. All the relationships I have ever had have just happened. They liked me, I liked them and then we were just together. But lately I have been trying to get out there and meet people and I have discovered several things about myself.
1.I am bad at dating. I just don't know how it works. I don't know what the rules are.
2. It's nerve racking. Ultimately, you're there to judge and be judged. And when I get nervous I need a release, which brings me to...
3.I drink too much on the first date. I am nervous, damn it! Which I have discovered is not the best way to go cuz I usually end up saying things I wouldn't normally say but at the time seemed quite reasonable.
All of my friends say "it will happen when you least expect it" and "you just got to get out there"but honestly, I really don't think I will meet the one for me through online dating or set-ups or whatever. But I am a doer damn it. I hate just waiting around for something to happen so I force myself to "get out there". Which is supposed to be good for you but feels akin to medieval torture. I am, however starting to learn some helpful hints when it comes to online dating.
1.Do not get very friendly online before you meet them. If you become friends online and then you meet in person and it doesn't work out, it kind of sucks. Because you start to like that person as a friend and then suddenly they are just gone. I know it seems silly but there are definitely people I wish I had never met in person just because I found them so interesting online.
2.Don't drink too much on the first date. This one would seem obvious but if things aren't going well it's easy to start slamming drinks. But a certain amount of self control is needed to maintain ones dignity. Trust me.
3.This kind of pertains to #2 since as one drinks one starts to let some of those inhibitions loose and one maybe inclined to go a little further than intended on the first date. In other words, let's keep it clean out there.
Oh I'm sure there are a lot of rules I haven't written here, let's face it people write books on the subject. I truly feel out of touch with American dating rituals anyway since my last two relationships were with Europeans. And don't even get me started on how I try explaining our dating rituals to my European friends. In Scandinavia there is no dating, you just meet through friends or family members or occasionally in a nightclub. Then you go home, sleep together and if you both wake up in the morning and find each other tolerable, viola! your a couple. Of course liquor helps immensely with this. Hmmm...drinking too much? Perhaps I am in the wrong country??
